The Good Men You’ve Been Waiting For

They are amongst us; they are someone’s brother, friend, neighbour, dad, son, cousin or colleague…

They genuinely smile at you for no reason in the street, give way in traffic and keep an eye on you from a distance at night until you get a cab. They warn you about danger when it arises, hold the door open for you when your hands are full and offer their seat even after having a hard day at work themselves. They make jokes to make you smile and are a shoulder to cry on. They offer help or solutions when you are in need.

They may have just remained single by choice, working on becoming better versions of themselves.

Some of these men lost their way, feeling completely confused about their role as men in today’s society.

Others are aware that times we live in require a major shift both within and without, so they are following that unravelling.

Some of these men burned down to ashes, were unable to find a way out, but now they are rising.

They are not jumping into relationships to run away from their own pain, traumas and wounds. Instead, they are choosing to take time to find themselves.

They’ve realised that bitterness and a mindset of always blaming the other side or playing the victim doesn’t work. They’ve been there, done that.

They are not afraid of taking responsibility for their own actions, understanding that they chose to be with or stay with the people who were once in their lives.

But they’ve stopped blaming themselves; not to escape the responsibility of the consequences, but because they’ve come to terms with the fact that all their life events were experiences, not mistakes. They were growth opportunities that have led them to where they are now, no matter how much pain was caused to them and others involved. They are manning up, making amends by working on themselves first and then choosing to make progress each day, finding better ways to deal with their close connections and others.

However, they are aware it will always be a roller coaster, and there is no easy fix. They know it’s okay to take steps back sometimes; t’s part of the process. They are learning not to beat themselves up over that and are determined not to give up.

They are not afraid of opening up to new opportunities and connecting with people who can provide guidance as they work their way out, as well as reaching out to friends and family.

They are more in tune with who they want to become and the qualities they wish to embody in their new role as men. They are willing to work on the body, mind and soul levels so they can lead better—not just their own lives, but their families, future partners, their community, and beyond, in whatever bigger picture they choose to engage with.

These are the men who have been on a healing journey, which is why they have not been available, for all the right reasons.

These are the men who now know when the right time will come to look for the next level of connection.

These are the men who’s reserved themselves only for women who have been doing the same work on a similar journey.

These are the men the evolved women have been saving themselves for.

And when a conscious man who is ready to lead meets a conscious woman who is fully present in her feminine power, something magical happens. They feel at home with each other; they are safe in each other’s company. This trust creates a space for them to be seen, heard, understood, appreciated, valued, supported and loved. They start this dance, which is flowing, letting them both take turns to lead and follow in harmony and are present in their power.

They are all in, fully committed and aware that they aren't missing anything out there . They are determined to work through their differences in a more evolved manner. They will make an effort not to act from their own wounds and conditioning, push each other away or run away when things get tough. But if they do, they will own their actions and make conscious amends.. In the end neither of them is perfect yet they share a strong commitment to each other.

They will keep the lines of communication open and remain authentic. They will not let circumstances spoil their connection; they will fight for each other and their relationship. They will know when one feels vulnerable, down, misunderstood or needs space and how to be there for each other. .

 They will find joy each day, discover new and exciting ways to relish life and gain wisdom through the challenges they face They are aware that loving someone unconditionally is hard, but they are working on it anyway. They will respect each other’s decisions and always know they have each other’s backs, no matter what life throws at them.

Together, they will continue to grow as individuals and as partners, working towards a united vision. Bibi F l o w